How is it that the one thing which literally gives us life we avoid at all costs?
Ever since I can remember I have loved, LOVE! Yet, as a society it is frowned upon when someone is single; especially in the Latino community. Every family reunion I cringe knowing they will ask: “So, tell us about your love life”. The funny thing is, if I was honest, they would die! So, I just respond “In God’s time I will find the right one.”
That sounds cute and all, but God needs us to take action here on earth in order to reveal our true love. However, without SELF LOVE you will continue to attract everything but what you truly deserve. The question I am asked the most is “Lulu, but how and where do I even begin the path to SELF LOVE?”
This is an excellent question because 90% of us don’t even know that we don’t love ourselves. We are so conditioned to thinking that love hurts and is hard work.
What I have found is YES, love takes work just like everything else in life and the things we nurture will grow.
Personally, during times when love has been “hard” is when I am with someone I shouldn’t be with. True love has a way of flowing, understanding and no matter what, you take care of your partner in a special way with very little effort.
Yet none of this is possible if you don’t love yourself. We cannot give others what we don’t have within. We are magnetic and what we have going on in our outside world reflects what’s really going on within us.
Examples of NOT having SELF LOVE
1. YOU’RE IN A FAKE RELATIONSHIP
As human beings, we have a fascinating way of falling in love ALL BY OURSELVES! What makes it fake is; that NO ONE has committed to you and yet you are truly committed to this person heart and soul. Everyone agrees to just being sex buddies, but you catch yourself being jealous, asking questions you shouldn’t and getting upset when you have no right to. So, unless you are asked and committed too, END your fake relationship RIGHT NOW!
2. YOU HAVE SEX WITH EVERYONE
Thinking that sex is the way to conquer the opposite sex is a huge red flag. We are all grown here so I’m going to say this: when you are emotionally stable have all the sex you want but having sex with the intention to conquer is a massive indicator of the lack of self-love you have for yourself. I’m not here to judge but I am here to keep it real!
- True story; I liked a guy so much once that after a few months my friend asked me what his legal given name was and like a deer, in headlights, I couldn’t answer because I only knew his IG nickname… BYE GIRL, I immediately called my life coach & got help!!
ACTION: Steps to Start Loving Yourself Today!
- FORGIVE YOURSELF:
Know that we are not what happens to us. Every minute of every day we have the opportunity and choice to start making the right decisions for ourselves.
- CUT OFF PEOPLE THAT ENABLE YOU:
We all have that “cheerleader friend” that encourages our HOE behavior; they can’t wait to hear your stories… You’re their real-life telenovela. Shows over, cut!
- HIRE PROFESSIONAL HELP:
Yes, we love our friends and family but let’s admit it, most of us are in the same boat! Get real professional help (there is no shame in that) so you can get the love you deserve…
FOR REAL THO!
Till next time,